MIL hell

So I could see this coming a mile away but no matter what I did I couldn't seem to stop it. My mother-in-law has been watching our daughter one day a week for the last few months and basically doing everything the exact opposite of the way I ask her to and now that my mom is getting ready to move up and we don't need her to watch our daughter she is throwing a tantrum about how she's never going to see her and basically pulling at my husband's heart strings so that she can get her way. Not to mention that she knows this will cause us to have a fight but ya know what does she care about my marriage if she gets her way. My husband and I have been fighting about something to do with his mom watching our daughter since she started watching her and I fear if I don't get us out of this cycle soon it will be the end of our marriage. Not to mention the fact that his mom defends the nanny and the fact that she left our daughter in a swing for about 5 hours out of a day! What kind of grandma would take the nannies side on that?

My next dramaful family Christmas

Well, I guess I figured if I could handle the drama of having a family Christmas with my dad's new "wife" then i could handle anything because I offered to host Christmas for my husband's family on Christmas day. The same family where his brother called me fat at nine months pregnant, the same family where his "sister-in-law" was our nanny and chose to leave our child in the swing for 5 hours out of the day, the same family where 2 of his brothers and his mom took the nannies side on the siuation and his mom called him behind my back and tried to get him to give the nanny another chance knowing that it would cause a huge fight between my husband and I if that happened! Well I don't know if it's Christmas spirit or if I'm just crazy but here we go again.....

Family Christmas

Well we had our family Christmas this past weekend and our actual Christmas wasn't bad other than being a little awkward. But the next day we were at the American legion post visiting Santa and someone was introducing my dad's "wife" to someone and with me sitting right there she made sure to throw in her new last name. She would't dare say something like that in front of my brother but she knew that I care enough about what my dad thinks that I wouldn't say anything. And I had actually started to feel sorry for her the night before because nobody was really talking to her. I just need to remember all the little "digs" she decides to get in when she can, which my dad swears isn't on purpose. I mean can't he see that everytime I tell him something bothers me that she brings it up to throw it in my face?

Baby's First Christmas

Well......I am so excited for my baby's first Christmas I can hardly stand it!! I know that she is only 4 months old and won't remember it at all but it is so important to me that she gets to do and see everything "special" about Christmas!! I have been researching fun and exciting events to do in the Kansas City area and areas nearby for kids and have found a few great ones. One is Deanna Rose Farmstead and it doesn't cost much either!! Anyone with other ideas let me know!!

Nanny Woes

So I thought it would be a great idea to have people I know watch my daughter while I went back to work. I guess that is what I get for thinking. I have a huge mess on my hands with more family and friend drama than I ever asked for!! I hired my husband's little brother's girlfriend (say that 3 times fast) to be my nanny three days a week and then my husband and I got the sneaking feeling that my daughter was spending too much time in the swing because everytime either of us walked in unannounced she was in the swing. So I mentioned to the nanny that my daughter didn't need to spend too much time in the swing......ya know we want her to roll over and crawl and stuff too. Then at 4 months she's not even attempting to roll over yet so I decide to set up a nanny cam just to see how much time she was spending in the swing and what I saw was shocking!! I kid you not if my daughter was not having a bottle or in bed for her nap she was in that swing all day, while my "nanny", and I use that word loosely, sat on the couch and text messaged her friends, changed her facebook status and made a cleaning list for herself when she got home. I was so mad I was shaking. I wondered, would the courts go lighter on me for hurting her because I did it in a fit of rage being a mean momma bear???? So now I have to fire the "almost" sister-in-law and try and keep my husband and his brother on good terms at the same time. I called her and told her about the nanny cam and told her we were sorry it had to end like this but we would be using someone else. My husband's brother eventually called and they got in to a huge fight, he was stating that you don't treat family that way.......Well what is my daughter, chopped liver? You don't treat family that way either but she did!! I am not really sure but I would bet that there is someone I could call to make sure she never does that to anyone else's kid that she nanny's for!!

Cleaning Company Ideas???

So my mom will be moving up soon and I am trying to help her get some leads for her cleaning company. Meanwhile all the business we get until she moves up will have to be handled by me. :( But it's nice to have the extra money. I am looking for any ideas anyone might have for drumming up some more business though!! I really want to make sure that she has enough to keep her afloat when she moves up. Thanks!!

My life, the Jerry Springer Show

Well, I suppose I should start from the very start if I am going to tell you this story. My parents, after 27 years of marriage, are getting divorced. It will be final as of November 21, 2009. I was told about it when I was about 6 months pregnant and about 2 months before my wedding day, they considered not telling me because of my "condition". So then come to find out my dad has a girlfriend and my mom has a boyfriend and just so that the situation could be a little more dramaful the boyfriend and the girlfriend are married...........to each other. Now, they got divorced and my parents are about to be divorced so that they could basically partner-swap each other. So as you can imagine I was a little upset about this new-found knowledge I had been so blessed to recieve. I have a little brother who is about to turn 24 in a few weeks and he was pretty upset about it as well. I don't know if it's because I was pregnant and hormones were all different but suprisingly I handled the "news" really well. I even let the girlfriend come to my house to visit with my dad and the boyfriend come to my house to visit with my mom. I think a big part of why I am trying to make it work as hard as I am is my daughter. I really want her to know her grandparents because I really didn't have that growing up and I was always jealous of little kids who did. So now I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. Yesterday my dad made a comment that would lead me to believe that he and his girlfriend will be married pretty soon and I am torn between "being nice" and telling him my true feelings and thus possibly pushing him away from me and/or my daughter. I have tried to talk to him before and tell him my feelings and the most I can get back is an, "I'm sorry you feel that way". He kept saying that he wanted the divorce to be finalized so that the healing process could begin for me and my brother but I am beginning to think that he wanted the divorce to finalize for the same selfish reasons that he left and the same selfish reasons he didn't care who he hurt when he did leave........whether that be my little brother, my mother, me, my unborn child, etc. I then wonder.......someday will I be so self-involved that I too choose my wants and desires before anyone else's. Will my daughter someday think that I am so conceited and self-absorbed? Because he is my dad could it be possible that I too someday will not care about her her health or her feelings as much as my own? Could I have fallen heir to this obviously less than desireable trait?